For International Women's Day we asked all of our inspiring HM ladies to share what advice would you give to your younger self? their daughter, sister or friend? And what's the best advice you've ever received? The result is sound advice and valuable life lessons for any age.
One of my favourite quotes from the legendary Ruth Bader Ginsburg is: "'Women belong in all places where decisions are being made. It shouldn't be that women are the exception". Whilst we should celebrate women who are decision-makers and leaders in their field, it is my hope that one day we won't have to, because then we shall have true gender equality. To borrow words from Hamilton the Musical, 'I wanna be in the room where it happens'. I hope other women will strive for the same.
Colette Miller, Partner, Public Sector & Housing
Don’t let anyone hold you back – do what feels right and believe in yourself. Above all, have fun, be good to yourself and those around you. Go for it, you can do it!
Laura Vernett, Marketing Director
The one piece of advice I would give my younger self and I also give to my daughter is do not put off until tomorrow what you can do today as tomorrow is not guaranteed. So, yes, I will dance in the rain, eat that slice of cake and drink that glass (or two) of wine and to heck with the calories!
Susan Shand, Paralegal, Elgin
The advice I would give to my younger self would be to "work hard and be kind - it'll all work out!"
My advice to my daughter, sister and friend would be "Give it your best – and enjoy the look on their faces when they realise you are SO much more than they expected you to be."
The best advice I have ever received was that "You will be too much for some people – they are not your people!", learning to be authentically yourself and be confident in yourself is definitely something that comes with age
Ciara McShane, Marketing Executive, Glasgow
Just because other voices might be louder than your own, it doesn't mean that yours isn't worth listening to. We all benefit when we have different people round the table sharing their views; it's how we learn and grow. Don't be afraid to share your opinion - have the confidence to know that people want to hear it and that your story is a worthy one.
Amy Walsh, Senior Associate, HM Connect
The best advice I have received was from my girlfriend about 5 years ago: "A problem which merits anxiety and stress is something which is still going to be an issue in 6 months' time, however, if the issue will be forgotten about in a weeks' time it's not a problem, it's just a bad day so learn from it and move on without stressing". I only wished I applied this logic when I was a lot younger and I would have saved myself from getting stressed about things which in the grand scheme don’t actually matter.
Jo Nisbet, Partner, Corporate
"Kindness and reciprocity of kindness brings lots of fulfilment and will ultimately be more rewarding than sharp elbows...."
Also -"High heels are fabulous but a pair of good wellies will take you anywhere!"
Anne Macdonald, Partner, HM Connect
"Live more adventurously in your daily life.
Small choices like going for a walk after dark instead of watching tv, cycling places instead of driving, trying new foods or new activities, will expand your comfort zone and give you confidence to do more exciting things. Challenge yourself to hike up a small hill to see the sunrise, or swim in the sea. The sense of achievement and well-being is immense and carries through to other aspects of your life."
Kate Gillies, Legal Content Writer, HM Connect
"Always go with what you feel is right at the time as what you feel is the right thing to do is right!…(look at what you've achieved to date on these decisions!)
Advice to daughter etc.? "Don’t waste your energy worrying about things you can't control, channel it to things you can influence."
What's the best advice you've ever received? 'No use in regretting the things you have done you might as well throw a snowball to extinguish the sun!'
Elizabeth Mitchell, Partner, Insurance
Advice to younger self :
"You have no idea of the twists and turns life may take, and all of the positive opportunities that are in store. Keep an open mind about every opportunity that comes up, and keep going, because your working life will evolve in ways you would never have thought possible if you hang in there and are willing to learn, constantly."
Advice to daughter / sister / friend:
"Don't worry about asking for advice when you need it, and be authentic."
Best advice ever received:
"Have faith in your own decisions, and don’t let fear of how others will react knock you off course."
Amanda Masson, Partner, Family Law